Sigmund Freud considered personality to be like an iceberg; personality exists below our level of awareness, just as the massive part of an iceberg is beneath the surface of the water. when ego starts to get signal that id will harm an individual through the means of anxiety, ego resolve the conflict through repression.
Repression is a defense mechanism where emotions are hidden beneath the unconscious state. Much as like pretending until the unwanted emotions are already been “unnoticed but never gone.”
My professor once said that pains of separation are never classified as finished business when there is no closure at all.
On my opinion based from my understanding, pains of separation are hidden below water —on the unconscious state. Which might soon reveal when triggered. When a situation like breaking up, does not have good closure, people will keep on coming back to that same spot having the same pain but “MAYBE” in a different intensity. For it was hidden somewhere within/beneath and will never be gone until solved. ACCEPTANCE and GOOD CLOSURE are top most solution. In this way, there is no point of REPRESSING feelings or emotions, no point of PRETENDING. COURAGEOUSLY walking in the battlefield until war is finished. no signs of FORGERY but a form of ALCHEMY OF ONESELF -maturity. :)